I’ve been watching this amazing new Hulu show called Shrill. The show stars Aidy Bryant (SNL) and her journey through life as a plus-size female.

In a world promoting body positivism, this show takes it one step further. It actually seeks to normalize the depiction of larger women.

Most shows trying to adhere to the new body acceptance trend tend to think they’re doing a great job when they stick one heavy girl in the show, usually a close friend to the protagonist (Jennifer Love Hewitt, I’m talking to you).

Anyone in the real world knows that the protagonist should probably either be a large girl or have several friends that wear a size 12 or larger.

So, as a woman who has always been on the heavier side, I get to put in my two cents.

There’s a constant stigma that somehow people who are heavier are lazy and unhealthy. This isn’t always the case, though, because many larger people have gained weight, not from what they eat, but from health issues and (often) medication side effects.

Some people, like myself, can’t keep up with a gym membership because of chronic pain.

I spent a lot of years, and continue to do so, in recovery from an eating disorder. So, I’m the first to call the crap when it comes to fad diets and other weight loss methods that shy away from anything resembling health.

The one that’s specifically going around these days is these surgeries that take out part of your stomach.

After people I know had these surgeries, I literally had people start talking to me about having one. The response I had in mind wasn’t exactly mature, so I refrained from letting my temper get the best of me.

So I ask the question that every little girl who was insecure about her weight, big or little, asks: Why can’t we just be? Why does it have to be anyone’s business what we look like–or why? You know, some of us were simply just blessed with slow metabolisms.

And some of us don’t want to starve ourselves, or risk going under the knife (which by the way can kill you) to live up to society’s standards.